Designing a life that works for you, your dreams, goals and values will require something of you. There is an invitation to 'evolve' or you will most certainly revolve. With some reflection, you can discover how you habitually think about yourself, others and life. You can easily see the habits of your days and weeks. You can also shine light on relationships and look at their vibrancy and condition. The life that you find yourself in, is largely a print out of your belief system and the habits created by that system.
The challenge is moving out of that system, and towards one that is healthful. Noticing and trying to resist outdated habits of thought and behaviour can feel very uncomfortable. We have been 'doing' them for sometime, they are part of who we are, and are a part of who others think we are. Breaking patterns can feel like something is wrong, like it is dangerous and counter intuitive. People in our lives may confirm this message, finding our personal growth confronting and challenging. Upsetting the apple cart in these instances, is an indication you are on the right path! Historical relationship dynamics are shifting, because you are shifting. In these periods of growth and change, life can appear to be becoming a mess, confusing the person evolving and sometimes even halting their process. Sometimes it looks like a demolition site, other times it looks more like taking the rubbish out. And other times it happens in a way that seems effortless.
Breaking through your chrysalis, like a caterpillar waiting to unfurl big beautiful wings, can be daunting and confusing. You are after all stepping into the unknown, the new evolved you. These times in our life welcome the support of trusted mentors or therapists to shine a light on the path, reassuring us to be brave and bold. Similarly, a meditation practice, or other avenue that supports you in centring and communicating with your true self is beneficial at times of growth and change. Find ways to reassure yourself, find ways to grow your courage, and enjoy the mysterious ride of life.